EstherPerel: Esther Perel is Therapist, Author, Speaker, and is recognized as one of the world’s most respected voices on couples and sexuality
I recently watched a video of a presentation Esther Perel gave in New York City. Esther wrote about it herself in her own blog post: “Did you watch it? TED featured me in a special series of talks for Valentine’s Day“. In the presentation, she addresses many topics related to passionate love in long-term relationships, such as:
- Why does great sex so often fade for couples who claim to love each other as much as ever?
- Why doesn’t good intimacy guarantee good sex? Why is the forbidden so erotic?
- Can we want what we already have?
- Why does sex make babies and babies spell erotic disaster in couples?
- When you love, how does it feel and when you desire, how is it different?
There is one point she raised, but didn’t (for me, at least) answer — largely because it didn’t seem central to her topic. I feel, however that this is indeed a central question: How can we continue to love someone who has apparently checked out from life? I highly recommend watching the video — and you will recognize the point I am talking about when you hear her speak about “no one at the reception desk“.